character defect

Prozac vs Perfectionism

It took me almost two full years of suffering with severe anxiety to finally go on anti-depressant medication at the age of 23. And that was only after the continuous urgings of a good friend. But I never really accepted the fact that I really needed this medication…until now. Up until last year, I would still …Continue reading →

Jun

Bad Motives

Several months ago, a friend called me to let me know that she had given my business card to a potential property management client. Of course I was thrilled. We are a relatively new company and we really appreciate all the leads we can get. A few days later she called back to see if the …Continue reading →

Jun

Sweet & Lowdown

One of my most persistent food issues has to do with artificial sweeteners. When I first became abstinent, they were the least of my worries, but as my abstinence has changed and I have been better able to focus on the nutritional soundness of what I AM eating rather than the “monumental sacrifices” I have …Continue reading →

Jun

“The Self-Centered Blogger” – – Isn’t That Redundant?

Ever since I started writing this blog, I can’t help noticing the parallels between blogging and self-centeredness. But before I get into that, let me explain what I have learned about this “self-centeredness” (a.k.a., my biggest character defect of them all). Through the process of doing The 12 Steps, I was horrified to learn that my main character defect was …Continue reading →

Jun

Choice vs. Punishment

This may seem like a small thing, but it has made a huge difference in my life…so I think it is well worth your while to spend some time meditating on this concept that took me 24 years to figure-out… ABSTINENCE IS A CHOICE, NOT A PUNISHMENT ! ! ! As both a child and a …Continue reading →

Jun

My Thin Evil Twin

In my entire 44-and-a-half years of life, the closest I ever got to my ideal weight was within 10 pounds in the summer of 1989, after a solid year of white-knuckling-it in program. It lasted a 3 whole months. And that was just enough time for me to meet… . . . MY THIN EVIL TWIN …Continue reading →

Jun

I “Forgot” My Weight!

Last week I experienced a true miracle I’d like to share. But first,…some background. Ever since I lost 75 pounds over a year ago, I have been asked to speak at several meetings, even though I still have almost the same amount of weight to lose. This has always made me uncomfortable. On the one hand, I’d …Continue reading →

May

No Raffle Tickets For Me!

At an OA anniversary meeting several months ago, a good friend of mine asked me if I wanted to go up and buy a couple raffle tickets with her. I casually blurted-out my standard line, “I don’t buy raffle tickets,” and didn’t think anything of it. I noticed that she wasn’t getting up to buy …Continue reading →

May

“Hoarders” Lesson Learned

Several months ago, I walked into the living room to find my husband watching a show called “Hoarders: Buried Alive.” It is a documentary/reality-tv style show about people who are obsessed with filling their homes with “stuff” with no regard for the effect this behavior has on their family members, their health, and their finances. …Continue reading →

May

“Only ONE pound?!” – Pt. 1

My abstinent food plan calls for me to only weigh myself at my counselor’s office. Since I only see her roughly once every six-to-eight weeks, I have been forced to give-up the majority of the obsessive behaviors related to getting weighed, like getting on the scale daily (or more), using calories to try to calculate …Continue reading →

Apr

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